Comments on: Bipolar Disorder and Romantic…. Love… ah…. http://bipolarhappens.com/bhblog/bipolar-disorder-and-romantic-love-ah/ by Julie A. Fast Sat, 20 Mar 2010 00:13:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: dolle http://bipolarhappens.com/bhblog/bipolar-disorder-and-romantic-love-ah/comment-page-1/#comment-1266 dolle Fri, 06 Mar 2009 22:42:31 +0000 http://bipolarhappens.com/bhblog/2009/02/20/bipolar-disorder-and-romantic-love-ah/#comment-1266 After 28 years of marriage, my husband has filed for divorce. He says my bipolar is too hard to live with. I am devastated. Also, he is having an affair and although I know my illness is a contributing factor to the demise of my marriage - another woman is not helping either. I have 3 sons and the youngest will graduate high school this year. Last October when I found out about the affair, I tried to kill myself. Fortunately, I was unsuccessful. I would take any advice about how to let go of my husband. I don't want a divorce and am still in love with him. But he has made it clear that he does not want me. I feel thrown away. Thanks for listening. Deb After 28 years of marriage, my husband has filed for divorce. He says my bipolar is too hard to live with. I am devastated. Also, he is having an affair and although I know my illness is a contributing factor to the demise of my marriage – another woman is not helping either. I have 3 sons and the youngest will graduate high school this year. Last October when I found out about the affair, I tried to kill myself. Fortunately, I was unsuccessful. I would take any advice about how to let go of my husband. I don’t want a divorce and am still in love with him. But he has made it clear that he does not want me. I feel thrown away. Thanks for listening. Deb

]]> By: Keith http://bipolarhappens.com/bhblog/bipolar-disorder-and-romantic-love-ah/comment-page-1/#comment-1213 Keith Sun, 01 Mar 2009 06:06:03 +0000 http://bipolarhappens.com/bhblog/2009/02/20/bipolar-disorder-and-romantic-love-ah/#comment-1213 "I believe that all of us long for love." True true. But what is the meaning of "love." For me it is better just defined as acceptance. We all want to be heard, want to matter, want to be understood. We long for a smile, a glance from across the room, a nod, a wink, something that acknowledges that we are more than just any old face in the crowd. We dream of sharing our time with someone, our hopes, dreams, ideas, passions, likes and dislikes. We seek out companionship, someone to see a movie with and talk about it, someone to have a meal with and taste it together. Unfortunately, being bi-polar has worked the other way for me, leading to rejection instead of acceptance. I can date fabulous women, but when they find out that my moods are a moving target, they begin to distance themselves, and it always ends. So "love" is not really available to me. But I can still find some level of acceptance. In places like here, or other online resources, and in the weekly support groups I attend. That is all some of us have left.... “I believe that all of us long for love.” True true.
But what is the meaning of “love.”
For me it is better just defined as acceptance. We all want to be heard, want to matter, want to be understood. We long for a smile, a glance from across the room, a nod, a wink, something that acknowledges that we are more than just any old face in the crowd. We dream of sharing our time with someone, our hopes, dreams, ideas, passions, likes and dislikes. We seek out companionship, someone to see a movie with and talk about it, someone to have a meal with and taste it together.
Unfortunately, being bi-polar has worked the other way for me, leading to rejection instead of acceptance. I can date fabulous women, but when they find out that my moods are a moving target, they begin to distance themselves, and it always ends. So “love” is not really available to me. But I can still find some level of acceptance. In places like here, or other online resources, and in the weekly support groups I attend. That is all some of us have left….

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]]> By: Susan http://bipolarhappens.com/bhblog/bipolar-disorder-and-romantic-love-ah/comment-page-1/#comment-1032 Susan Fri, 20 Feb 2009 18:02:41 +0000 http://bipolarhappens.com/bhblog/2009/02/20/bipolar-disorder-and-romantic-love-ah/#comment-1032 I am in a romantic with relationship (even dealing with my bi-polar) I started seeing this person a month after I was diagnosed and put on the right medication. What I have found is that when he is not here, I too know that it is ok to go to bed alone. He is very helpful in "realing me in" when I feel the urge to spend money I shouldn't or revert to old patterns I have with my family, particularly my mom. I am in a romantic with relationship (even dealing with my bi-polar) I started seeing this person a month after I was diagnosed and put on the right medication. What I have found is that when he is not here, I too know that it is ok to go to bed alone. He is very helpful in “realing me in” when I feel the urge to spend money I shouldn’t or revert to old patterns I have with my family, particularly my mom.

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