Getting better day by day… by choosing loving relationships
I’ve cut back on almost everything in my life the past few years. If I see my life as a tree, I have done a ton of pruning. I currently don’t have ANY troublesome relationships. Can you believe it! It took a few years to know what I could handle and ultimately what I wanted. This has improved my life 100%.
I have a few relationships that cause me pain, but that is because I can see the other person is hurting and there really isn’t anything I can do. This is particularly hard when it’s a family member. I don’t add to their pain nor do I try to fix them. I used to try that and always got hurt.
If you look through your life and picture all of your relationships, what % cause you pain and what % bring you joy? I certainly have ups and downs with the people in my life- but that’s all normal stuff. No one makes me depressed or psychotic or suicidal! I used to have quite a few people like that in my environment. Once I got more clear on what I wanted, it was a lot easier to say yes or no to people!
This has helped my stability as much as my medications.
Julie
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Hey Julie,
I find in my daily battle with Bipolar that relationships are probably the hardest. I can take responsibility for money, job, attitude, etc. but sometimes the relationship thing is a two way street. I struggle with trying to identify the good guy from the bad guy! I am to the point that I really don’t trust too many people. I am very lucky to have a wonderful husband that can help me with that. He can tell me if it’s the Bipolar or me or THEM! It helps to have someone you CAN trust to help you figure out people.
Keep the blogs coming Julie! I learn from you every day!
Debbie