I Will Not Lie in Bed When I’m Depressed. I will help others and feel better!

 

If helping others helps depression, what is something you can do from the depths of depression to help someone in need?

– You don’t have to feel good about helping someone.
– You don’t have to be motivated.
– You don’t have to have energy at all.

Pick one thing, do it and report back about doing it. That is all I am asking for today’s research.

I’m going to be nice to myself. I got in bed again and binged on a British police procedural. This is my go to depression behavior on the rough days. But I stopped after 30 minutes as really- watching murder mysteries is not a good depression management technique. HEHE.

I’m not depressed like I used to be- my original depression lasted off and on from age 19 until 48. That is not a typo.

I am MUCH better now, but I still get triggered. My Kickstarter set off a series of mood swings. Nothing new for me, but still awful to go through.

Believe it or not, when I get sick I run through what I write in my books- “Julie, what would Get it Done Say right now?” and I picture my own strategies.

So, I did something to feel better. I wrote my Bp Magazine blog for family members to know the signs we are sick. It comes out tomorrow. I will share it below when it’s posted.

I got myself into my office! I’m still depressed. I feel like crying. I want to isolate. But I won’t.

You can move forward when the bipolar is raging. Just know you aren’t going to feel good at first.

That comes later.

Julie

How do you get someone in your life to accept help for a mental health disorder?

This is a question I hear ever time I give a talk on bipolar disorder and mental health in general. My answer always surprises people.

I believe we help others find stability by stating our needs clearly along with the message that all relationships are reciprocal.

Then, the person can decide to listen or not listen. To participate or not participate. To change or not change.

People change when they want to. Nothing we do will EVER get another person to change. When we know our needs and state them clearly, the people in our lives can join us or leave us.

It is up to them.

If our needs are based off of kindness, personal growth and a healthy dose of knowing that humans make mistakes, we can find happiness. Stating our needs is an act of the greatest respect.

In seven years, all of my clients who stick with me have had success with this system as they have learned to state their needs.

We are not taught this in school. We are rarely taught this anywhere. This is what I teach in my coaching. People are shocked when I say that my coaching has nothing to do with a person who has a mental health disorder. That is a separate life. We are not responsible for anyone except our SELVES.

My coaching is about the client who wants better relationships in life. Self change is the only way I have found peace.

Julie

PS: I am moving from one on one coaching to creating a coaching series for online learning. I will keep you posted on my new products.

Julie’s Bestselling Bipolar Disorder Book is on Sale!

Big news! Amazon often does sales on bestselling books. Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder is currently on sale for the print copy. This is the book I recommend for all people who want to understand the basics of bipolar disorder.

This is the book where I introduced the idea of trigger management, symptoms lists, the bipolar conversation, time changes and how they affect bipolar disorder and how to create a health care TEAM.

It’s a great book for family members and health care professionals as well.

Click here to read more about Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder. 

Julie 

 

Do You Suffer from Self Stigma? I Did!

To find out, read the following symptoms:

1. “I am just going to keep my daughter at home until she is better. The hospital is a terrible place and I don’t want her to get labeled as bipolar.”

2. “I don’t want a psychiatric hospitalization to ruin his career chances.”

3. “I’m too strong to go to the hospital during an episode. Hospitals are for weaker people.”

4. “He is just having a tough time. His girlfriend left and wanting to die is simply a reaction to the breakup. He will be fine.”

5. “If you had been a better mother, our daughter would not be mentally ill.”

6. “I can’t let my daughter be locked up in some ward far away from home where they will pump her with mind numbing mediations and label her with some nasty illness that will be on her medical charts forever!”

7. “No son of mine has a mental illness. That doesn’t happen in our family. He will just have to deal with his problems and get on with life.”

8. “This is a drug problem. It’s not mental illness. Once he stops the drugs it will be ok.”

SELF STIGMA happens when our deepest, darkest fears and beliefs come to the surface during a crisis.

My former idea that going to the hospital is a weakness that would ruin my career is self stigma. I had to change. I looked at the strength it takes to check yourself into a psychiatric facility and I decided I want to be strong. Taking care of yourself is strong.

If I get too sick to take care of myself or if someone in my life tells me I need the hospital, I will go.

We talk so much about society and how it shames those of us with mental illness. I don’t buy into this idea. Our shame is internal in my opinion. Not having our picture on a social media page. Not liking or friending posts because people will know we went to a bipolar disorder site.

I want to change. I want to open my mind and tell the world that my mania, depression, psychosis, obsessions, anxiety, focus problems and general ‘odd thinking,’ are a part of my brain and not a reflection of my SELF.

I can change.

Join me!

Julie

The picture is me at age 16. The year my psychosis started.

What is it really like to work when you have active bipolar disorder, psychosis and anxiety?

 

I just sent out a newsletter. Here is what I experienced the entire time I was working:

1. Shortness of breath.
2. Felt like my heart was in my throat- literally- like a lump.
3. Dizziness
4. Worry
5. Guilt
6. Dread
7. Anger that I have to go through this CRAP
8. Lack of faith in what I was writing.
9. A great desire to simply quit what I was doing.
10. Zero belief I would reach my goal.

I have lived with this my entire life. It is my brain. I have a lot of mental health symptoms that simply show up when I work.

The secret is learning to work THROUGH them.

I sent that darn newsletter and it is beautiful. Who cares that I felt like I was dying while working on the project. I will keep going.

Julie

The Kickstarter for Hortensia and the Magical Brain is Live!

Hortensia and the Magical Brain introduces a therapeutic poetry technique that helps parents, caregivers and health care professionals lovingly talk with a child and create an open and healthy conversation around early onset mental health disorders.  The poems cover the mean and nasty, scary and suicidal, angry and elated, sad and over the top thoughts and behaviors children with mental health concerns regularly experience.

Let’s shine a light on these NORMAL mental health symptoms and teach kids that they are often a result of brain chemicals that can be fixed though lifestyle changes and if needed, medical help.

This is a beautifully crafted, hard back book that was created for kids whose brains aren’t always on track. Just like mine!

Please visit our Hortensia Kickstarter page to read more about this amazing book.  Pledges start at $1 and everyone receives a fun reward as a thank you!

Julie 

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