I am a huge fan of sports radio- actually, watching sports keeps me going on tough days. That is why I always remind myself to think like an athlete and just plow through the rough times work wise.
This morning- I heard an interview with a financial advisor who works with the world’s top athletes- the radio host asked him if he had ever fired a client. He said, “Yes. I simply told the guy – I don’t want to take on the headache that goes with working with you.”
This got me to thinking. Those of us with bipolar- and possibly those of us who love someone with the illness and don’t like the way they are treating us can have the same motto:
“I don’t want to take on the mood swings that go with being around you. ”
That is the ultimate definition of a trigger- if something or someone makes you ill- on either side of the illness, it’s your right to simply say NO MORE.
Julie
Saying ‘no’ has been one of the hardest things I have learned over the years. I had a bad childhood and never ever said no to anything. As an adult I let everyone walk on me like I was a rug. In the past few years I finally got it, just what you said, I have the right to say ‘no’. I had a friend that made me feel sucked dry of all energy and joy, but I felt I needed to put up with her, and I finally was told by a spiritual leader that I did not have to be a rug, it was okay to say ‘no more’. I have leaned on that counsel ever since. I have the right to choose not to be pushed into illness no matter who is doing it.
All right Lyn! That’s what I’m talking about! Another good thing is that some people will actually listen when you tell them your feelings and will try to change. That is why the picture of my brother is up on the blog this week. I have a story to tell. Thanks again Lyn. Julie
I find it very hard to tell my son that I can’t take the mood swings that go with him. He has been unstable for years. Right now I am the only person he can talk to. If I turn my back on him now I’m sure he will commit suicide. There seems to be no way out for me. He needs to be hospitalized but that will NEVER happen. He told me that if I call 911 he will either kill himself or the person that shows up at his door. LOST
Hi Julie,
I find it very hard to tell my son that I can