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Would You Have a Relationship with Someone who has Bipolar Disorder? - (Comments are closed) 8 comments to Would You Have a Relationship with Someone who has Bipolar Disorder? |
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I just informed a “great guy” that I started dating that I was bipolar. Biggest mistake I ever made. Will I ever find love?
Hi Renae,
You will absolutely find love. Many people are amazingly impressed by those of us with the illness who have insight and a mangagement plan. They see us as success stories. If you maintain stability and are honest with guys you meet- as you were with this guy, you will find the right person.
As you may know from reading this blog, I’ve had terrible problems with dating- but not from anyone having trouble with my bipolar disorder. My problems are with anxiety.
So good for you for getting out there! Honesty is all we can do. This illness is way to serious not to mention it as we get to know someone.
It’s interesting- in the poll I wrote that I would not date someone with bipolar because I know what it’s like to live with me! And yet, I never expect someone to reject me becaue of bipolar!
Complicated. Thanks for your post. You are awesome! And a great guy will see that. Julie
I checked I need more information however the.first 3 choices also apply.
My relationship with my boyfriemd has not been stable . .
The last year of my life has been a roller coaster ..I was on my own kiddie roller coaster prior to my boyfriend and now its been a very rough ride on the suicide ride.
We are on and off and on and off eveyday it seems. I am for the most part med compliant,.but my bf is not even on meds nor does he see a dr…
When we got together I was unaware he was bipolar., I know this is.only making me sick and each day I feel weaker and weaker. I have lost my drive to fight and bipolar once again is in charge.
Good.news. Is I finally got.off my butt and made a choice to resume my very missed life I had prior to my bf.so I think my X BOYFRIEND is what I should be saying ..
its only been a week. I feel much more in control of my life but miss him terribly.
So this is a good question and looking forward to the results’
Thank you for taking the time to read…my first time I gave my “opinion”
Feels okay…..
Jody
I am dysmorphic ultra ultra rapid cyler. Mixed episodes are the only thing I know. Your life sounds like a walk in the park to me. Yes, at one time my life was very under control until I moved overnight to a new state to be with my fiance who had a cancer diagnisis. As 3 of his MDs said ‘Mental Health in the area sucks.’ and that’s a direct quote from all three. I’m great in an emergency. I had no time to make friends and mental health providers didn’t know as much as I did. I knew how to get to the hospital,pharmacy, grocery store, and home. It was a severe roller coaster for 3 years and then as my then husband gained his health, mine gave out. When I came here I was on disability for Chronic Major depression but had it upder control with a great folk dance community and the exercise kept me physically and mentally as balanced as could be. I became more than depressed, I became angry and aggressive and started throwing and breaking things. It scared the heck out of me. I was sent several hours away for some history and testing and got my bipolar diagnosis. As time went on, add a triple bypass, the following month (15 hrs. north) being my father’s primary caregiver on hospice with an abrupt and painful DX where there was no limit on Morphine in his last 3 weeks. Home to my husband needing cardioversion, then finally getting through rehab, only to be followed by going to his mother’s primary (19 hrs. south) with morphine. So much in 4 months. You must know what a giant leap forward that can throw you. I’ve never been the same since. This past year my Rx insurance changed and generics only. I can’t take half the name brands. When something works you can’t just play with my life. Doctors letters’ didn’t work. I was their guiea pig and I almost didn’t survive last year. The penalties for my drugs are hundreds and thousands of dollars if I don’t try their formularies. Not one, but two. By the time I got back to my cock tail… it didn’t work. No the manufactures wouldn’t help me because I have insurance. When I found out I was Bipolar I appologized to my husband and said I never would have gotten married if I’d know. He didn’t know what he was in for, but I had dated a Bipolar years ago. YES. I stay on my meds. I know my body. My life, as several people have said, has been thrown more curve balls than 10 people experience. It doesn’t help. So Has any of this made sense? Right now I have 4 family members seriouly ill. I’m not very functional.
I voted NEVER. The computer couldn’t find ‘NONCE’ for an answer??? I am the mother of a mentally ill son and would discourage any young lady from dating him. There is no one in this world who could tolerate living with him.
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I would be more likely to date someone with bipolar if I got to know them 1st before realizing they had bp. That’s how I handled it when I was dating last: if you disclose on the first date, people hit the highway, but if they get to know you, they’re more likely to see you as a whole person. When I told people negative things on the 1st date, I was sabotaging myself. When I waited until the relationship was turning more serious, it worked out.
I have been married for 20 years to an amazing man who deals with my bipolar in such a caring and understanding way, it makes me grateful every day. It help that he grew up with a mom who was depressed at times and 3 older sisters!What also helps our marriage and family of 4 stay strong during my hard times (which seem to become fewer and less intense as I get older-I’m 47 now) is a game plan that acknowledges the presence of my illness, makes provisions for altering my schedule if need be, my taking private time to rest, asking for and receiving love and reiterating that this shall pass, reducing demands on me (so what if the house gets messy as long as I am getting better), and eating and sleeping well. And waiting. We have our rocky times, as any married couple would. When they are bipolar-related, it can be hard for me to acknowledge this. My husband tries to remind me that my view is clouded at those times. Having a partner (and I stress that word) is crucial. To all the ladies who fear their illness precludes having love in their lives, I say allow someone into your life, spend time together, and then decide when and how you will present your illness. Let the other person see you in the context of life, then as a person with bipolar. Best of luck.