Internet dating was one of the most stressful experiences of my life! In fact, it can be stressful for people without bipolar disorder! I stopped using the internet to date over a year ago. What a relief! I have to admit I did meet a lot of guy friends that way, but the other people I met… whew! A lot of trouble!
Maybe internet dating works for you- but if you find it making you obsessed and unhappy, there are many other ways to meet people that are less stressful.
I have friends who met on Match.com, etc- but they are pretty calm and could handle the constant email and constant judgment from strangers! Not me! I used to put up profiles when I got manic. Now I use my mania more wisely. ha ha.
Julie
PS: How about speed dating!
I met my husband on a dating site. Never thought I would fall into that statistic, but I will be forever grateful to plentyoffish.com : )
Hi Lissa, I have so many friends who met their partners on dating sites! I just want to remind people that they can be a bit obsessive if the mood isn’t good! 😉 I know that when I start dating again, I will use dating sites and just pray the OCD doesn’t get too bad. I’m so glad you found a partner! julie
Hi Julie,
My first- and last – experience with speed dating was funny. The organizers weren’t experienced and didn’t separate out age groups. As a result, I ended up “dating” 20-somethings who were less than happy to sit down with a woman in her 40s. It felt pretty humiliating at first until I began to relax and have fun with them by cracking jokes and being friendly. It was good practice talking to men, and I ended up feeling good that I’d amused them, rather than feeling like I was too old/fat, etc. Oh, and I also had to “date” my Boss, so you can see why this was my last time doing this! :0)
I can so relate to Julie. I usually create profiles when I am manic. Making things worse, usually after a fight with my 4 year on-and-off relationship. Doesn’t make sense even as I type it but I am doing well today lol. I have since ended the 4 year relationship recently and am getting a lot of support to keep it that way. I’m sure the holiday’s will be hard but I am grateful for my supportive family and grandchildren. I made a pact not to start any internet dating for 3 months.
Hi Gail, I am SO glad this post helped you. There is little worse than a bad relationship. Good relationships are not off and on- I learned that with my last boyfriend! 😉 Julie
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I am bipolar since age 18. Now 57. I took lithium all of my life, until my kidney transplant over 2 years ago. On meds since. I have tried online dating, but always burn my bridges with each date. I had one 8 mo. relationship. I have apoligized to each of the women.
I seem to go online date site, then give up a few days later, back on again, love or hate. I have two grown daughters and they love me.
Am I wasting my time on date sites?? Am I doomed to be single??
I tried dating on Match.com. However to be with a bipolar person you really have to be able to stick through the rough times. I could not find people willing to accept me as I was. It worked for a few months but then the relationships ended so I decided to stop my match site. I would like to meet people with experience with others having the bipolar and having to take medicine for it. Also when the medicines are not working well there has to be a person who is non-judgemental. Relationships between healthy people seems difficult so I am not sure I will ever find one willing to work though one with someone who has bipolar