It pays to TREAT BIPOLAR DISORDER FIRST.
Love is a wonderful thing. Love keeps relationships alive. Love is beautiful.
Bipolar disorder laughs at love. Bipolar disorder doesn’t care. The only way to keep a relationship going strong when one person has bipolar disorder is to treat bipolar disorder first. Here’s why:
- Less stress on the relationship- when you’re arguing about mood swings, there is no time to discuss real issues.
- Fewer medical bills- bipolar disorder is expensive in every way you can imagine.
- Less addictive and dangerous behavior- when bipolar disorder is managed, we are far less likely to drink and do drugs.
- Creates a stable environment for children- children can be taught that bipolar disorder is an illness, but it’s still traumatic for them to witness out of control mood swings.
- Work is possible- so true! When bipolar is raging, work suffers. When we are stable we can work and contribute to a relationship.
- Money can be managed more effectively- partners of people with bipolar disorder often live in fear of manic shopping mistakes. Prevention is the only answer.
- Life can be enjoyable again- no matter how sick your partner has been in the past. Your partner can get better and bipolar disorder can be managed.
Say no to a relationship controlled by bipolar disorder. Say yes to a relationship based on love!
Julie
My book Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder: Understanding and Helping Your Partner is in its second edition. There is a new chapter on medications!
This is so difficult when it doesn’t matter what I do, it is never good enough, or fast enough or done in his time frame. My tone is never right. He says things to me, then he claims he never said them. There are witnesses. He has done things that are so reckless, I have PTSD from a severe car accident. He decided he wanted to F*** with this guy in my car. We ended up going over 100mph. I was screaming that he was scaring me, alls he could say was don’t scream at me. He got out and got in the person’s face. Didn’t care about me, that he just terrified me, then didn’t even apologize later. The world must revolve around him. He makes it all sound like I am doing all these things that take the attention away from him, when alls I am doing is contributing to the conversation. So, now I just sit there, and don’t say anything.
He just told me that he swallows so much of my sh**. I am like really???? OMG!!!!! I told him, my bad for this one, but I have swallowed so much of his, my eyes should be brown. He flipped me off. I know, I shouldn’t have. I was tired….I am at my wits end here. I thought we were doing good.
He has broken 3 laptops, 1 $400 cellphone….. I am tired……
I cry in silence.